Unconditional Love is Accepting the Human that I AM

Unconditional love is accepting the human that I am, without any more judgement, and being nice to myself no matter what. That is not to say that there is no issues and problems, otherwise I would no longer be human. But to be gentle with myself no matter the problem invites love in to fix problems the gentle way. Being harsh about things like pain even if just a niggling one, I can live with. No matter what the experience, one does grow old, and show signs of ageing, which I certainly am now noticing. I accept my lot and my destiny of death and am not trying to avoid it, or delay it in any way. If anything, I will welcome it, knowing like the Indians told me, that I have earned the right to go to the next level that I have been wanting to be ever since visiting it years ago! Hence my admonition to others to hold onto their innocence for as long as possible, still holds true. I am not about pointing out people problems, nor about telling them how to fix themselves anymore but prefer to tell people to be nice and gentle, compassionate and kind. That is what nurturing is all about. If there is trouble, it is not good to harp on the troubles, but to take the mind off it, and allow it to re-present itself whenever the individual wants or feels like it. It is not my role to be judge and jury to others, and have had enough of that (especially as a virgo) for a lifetime, so do not wish to linger around judgement further. There are other ways I can use my mind, other than judging others or myself.

There is always a degree of caution to work out whether a situation is mine to grasp or just out of reach still. When it is within my reach, then there is no hesitation to seize the moment and the adventure that comes along with it. There has been a change of my focus over the years, and I soon saw that people were where they chose to be, and had nothing to do with me if I could not budge them. It is not my role to bring anything to their attention, as nature will do that in her own gentle way.

I have been hard on myself throughout my life, and it is nice to finally accept myself giving space and giving nurturing to myself. When I feel like dark chocolate, I go get it, and if I wanted macadamia nuts, I would go and taste all kinds at the factory until I found the ones that appealed to me at the time, and when I wanted gourmet cheese, would go to a dairy that had taste tests, and find the one’s I wanted. When on the road selling over the last year, if I felt like stopping, or if looking at a map, I would choose my paradise destination, then stop to smell the “daisies” as it were. Of course I felt lonely not sharing this with someone, as it is a lifelong dream for many Australians to circumnavigate our homeland, and I did that in style in the best 4x4 on the road in Australia, the latest Toyota Landcruiser 100 series, with a custom built camper trailer. Like a travelling home, I made friends everywhere I went. Not a bad life, and when I finally went into the wilderness for the experience, it was with being nice to myself that I had in mind. It was for the same reason that I came out of it, as my teeth were falling apart, and needed looking at.

Since then, many people have opened their home and hearts and demonstrated unconditional love to me, which has all been gratefully received and accepted. That by no means says that I have no homework, as am still a work in progress, but the path has become much less difficult, and have had a dance compared to having a fight when faced with the same challenges in the past. The anger and frustration often felt by a man has dissipated, and am much more mellow, and balanced compared to where I used to be. Showing unconditional love to myself first, has changed a lot, or rather transmuted a lot. I am not shying away from looking at myself, just approaching it in a much more loving and nurturing way, which I am sure you the reader will understand, as that is what all people would love to have. First giving it to oneself assures that others compound the giving, and the luxury of getting so much love, can be wonderful indeed.

As said, I had a very good soul-mate teacher to give me an example of what this love looks like, and the longest serving female in my life, my Birman cat, “Desert Jewels” certainly showed me the most love throughout her whole life. I miss her to this day, and know that I will see her again one day, so precious was her love to her owner! These are the kind of words people love to hear. It is always better to stroke than to provoke! Especially a man’s ego, fragile that it is, loving words never go amiss. To belittle being human is not my way, nor do I think it very spiritual to take aim at weaknesses in the human condition, but to look on the brighter side of life, and the silver lining where the sun is still shining. That is what I now look for inside of myself, and another person, and even though not there all of the time, as I always say, you only get back what you feed!

Lovingly,
Anaconda

Balancing Things

The problem is how to balance the things not fixed with the things begging to be created? Do I go back or forward today? What squeak wants my attention now? Don’t they know I am dreaming out many other dreams in my mind right now? What was that? What did you say? I beg your pardon? A conversation going on in my head all of the time, consequently my external world also mirrors that back to me. My dilemma! Something around me is always demanding my attention, so what now? Becoming responsible for my creation was never my forte, where I am more the Creator of my reality over being a caretaker. Which part of it will I visit today? Will any of it be complete? Unconditional love has been shown despite misgivings, and second thoughts about its cost. All of my unconditional love contributed to this article being written, as I can’t go back, and I don’t know whether anything can be fixed. It is what I do as I create as these lessons are for me to learn from to try to balance in my role in life. Not easy, and can’t stop dreaming to go fix problems, so why create a problem in the first place? Unconditional love can work by taking such care of the business left behind in its own repaying way.

I have experimented with living off $200, and two “magical suitcases’ for every new chapter lived all over the globe for the past few decades, and I am sure my soul-mate can attest to this, as there have been many. Some done in style, while others in a homeless way. Others deep in the bush of the Kimberley’s, others, on the Gulf Islands off Vancouver Island, or the foothills at the base of the Rockies west of Calgary in Alberta, or Northland in New Zealand. All have been paradises to me, and would love to revisit them all. I know my life could not go back through all of that now, and when I do these days, it is 30-50 years since I have been somewhere, and it is Rip Van Winkle returning! All of it has changed. Yet not changed in my mind. One day, both can be merged. Different time, different space, different face, yet the same story if seen enough times, being the same basic script. The entire story with the same basic script is a lesson, all playing different roles at different times and places. It’s a great game of musical chairs. Looking at your own DNA, with millions of faces all different, yet all the same, stretching back to the beginning of time. And it is all me and you, and all different, yet all the same. Isn't life great being a part of a larger Love Story, of the Bigger Us?

Anaconda

Love is Aiding Others Dreams to Come True

First of all, do you know what your personal dream is? Do you know anyone else’s dreams? Do you ever talk about dreams with others, or is this something long forgotten?

If we do not have a dream, and if we have forgotten how to dream, then for what purpose are we doing anything? Should not our dreams be a destination to be aimed for even if not achieved? And should not anything be an aid in order to fulfil such dreams? When we were kids, we would tell each other that when I grow up, I am going to be a “fireman” or whatever, but few people do that with each other today in a grown up way. Perhaps it is now time to resurrect the telling each other our dreams. If we aid enough people’s dreams to come true, even through our own connections and networking, then we begin changing how things begin to look. It then becomes Unconditional Love in action as people begin to live their bliss again! Maybe they never have lived their bliss, but wouldn’t it be nice to aid each other to such ends? Now there is a thought!

If there is a roomful of people with a card on their chest stating what their dream is, do you think that anyone in that room might have ideas or connections, or even the end point of another’s dreams? What about your partners? Do you have a “joint dream” with them? Some joint dream to both works towards that actually helps to keep two people together over growing apart from each other as some do. Certainly I think this is something worth considering and talking about, and through the talking about them, fix them, bring the vibration of such ideas into this dimension just through the talking of them, held, and through one step at a time, manifest them! As we gradually get the idea of how we best can help each other, smiles begin to replace frowns as these begin to take form. If communities aided their members to gain such dreams, then loyalty and dedication of purpose begins to also show. What would the world begin to look like if we all began to do this over where we just think and do things for ourselves? Perhaps it would be the start of the New Dreamtime!

You might find also, that the world has become a magical place at this time, and that perhaps dreams have already come true, just needing to be linked up by us just talking about them, and the solution appearing. This certainly would take us away from the fear based negative spin that the media now gives primarily, towards a positive and happy future for all. It also would take us away from thinking in selfish ways, to participating in happy fulfilment of others dreams. By seeing how possible everything is now becoming, this also will embolden us all to begin stepping to bigger, more universal dreams, such as healing for us all, and what each of us can do towards such a dream.

Ken and I were thinking aloud as to who would be best to connect with for a particular project Ken was interested in doing, so I mentioned a person I knew who was the best in the city we were in with a population of a million. The next store we were in, just minutes later, and in walked the man we had been talking about, as if on que. Magic happened at that moment.

What will become evident as we strive to speak our dreams is what gifts each person has in their hands that perhaps are not being used to their fullness and potentials. Some people are incredibly creative, while others are artistic, others able to add up a column of numbers in their heads like a calculator (I have seen someone do this for me), while others are musical. It would be a shame to have a canary that doesn’t know it is a canary, if it never whistled a note, and the same goes for our gifts! These are the first things that need assessing when thinking about what an appropriate dream for each of us might be, as it becomes the indicator and direction for where we should be going. If one has flippers on, it would be hard walking on land, instead of swimming in the water. The same is true for our talents. That has nothing to do with a certificate on the wall, although these might be related. It just shows our natural proclivities, and potentials that cannot be ignored. You might think them ordinary until spoken, where the feedback is that there is no-one quite like that except yourself!

By thinking this way, we can help each other to gradually formulate in clear one by one steps, what each other would like to do, and by assisting each other do this, win exponential support for our own dreams. We then become happy by aiding others to become happy. We begin to play everything forward, and the world begins to change positively. Done with love, a new joy will begin to emerge, and I personally would encourage everyone to consider doing this for the surprises you will find by thus doing this.

Anaconda

Children

Children.

Children, I have a few
Helped raise others not my own
To Mother’s whose life mixed with mine.
Freedom was always the goal
Supporting wherever they went
And when they decided to pursue
Their own paths to follow by themselves
Gladly have I watched with pride
From sidelines far away
Still giving unconditional love
Accepted or not, it still exists
Like my own parents always with their prayers
Watching from afar the work of their hands
Always remembering the good times
The innocence of their living child
Playing with adventure,
With life and with love.

Anaconda